#### [[notes_Confidence vs Ego ]] **Creator**:: [[Dr. K]] **Source**:: [[course_Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health]] **Link**:: [Healthy Gamer](https://coaching.healthygamer.gg/guide/lessons/confidence-vs-ego) #### Terms - [[Ahamkara]] ## Notes prev:: [[notes_Panchakosha Theory]] - low self-esteem - not believing in yourself enough - egotistical - believing yourself to much - Intelligence leads to avoidance - [[Overly interrogative parents can lead to alexithymic children]] - Gifted kid problem - Worth tied to ease of [[learning]] - minimum amount of effort to succeed - doesn't learn to study - [[Confidence comes when you are more capable of handling diverse outcomes]] - Confidence has to do with dealing with [[insecurity]] - contrast:: [[Insecure material conditions increase cognitive load and reduce outcomes]] - confidence doesn't come from success it comes from surviving failure - Confidence is derived internally ego is derived externally - [[We value our biggest insecurities because they protect us from the biggest threats]] - success does not lead to confidence it leads to [[ego]] i.e imposter syndrome - [[Increases in scrutiny lead to increases in anxiety]] - [[Ahamkara]] or [[ego]] are all about comparison - How to gain [[confidence]]? - Learn how to face uncertainty - Confidence comes from surviving failure - Value internal value over external value