###### [[videoScarra Drk Interview]] **Covers**:: **Source**::[What do you see in the mirror, Scarra? | Dr. K Interviews](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nB8g3n10_Z8) **Last Edited**:: *7:35 AM - July 08, 2022* - #TO/EXPLORE/RESEARCH cognitive [[empathy]] - [18:05](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nB8g3n10_Z8#t=1085.282509721527) - [[happiness]] there is a difference between contentment and momentary happiness ### working on [[empathy]] and chasing [[happiness]] - Empathy vs solutions - always chase happy vs - loving to win vs hating to lose - fix things vs listening ### logic vs empathy - Scarra had frustration with people not being able to just do it - cognitive [[empathy]] - "when you say that the rationalization is the best way it's because that's what you're the best at" ### low self-worth - Admits that he has very low [[self-worth]], but then immediately goes and says that's normal, when [[Dr. K]] pushes he admits that he is being more vulnerable than he likes - "Logic is your shield and you constantly work on yourself but that feeling of worthlessness doesn't go away" - "the more you work and that feeling doesn't go away what do you conclude" - scarra feels like he is incapable of certain and things but deals with that by saying that he can never be perfect, [[Dr. K]] pushes back by saying you can never be perfect but saying that in response to your own feelings engenders [[hopelessness]] i.e Your someone that could do something but won't ### how does [[Dr. K]] approach - Recognizes verbally that something will be difficult - mirrors why patient rationalizes but pushes back against the [[purpose]] of that [[rationalizations|rationalization]] - asks basic questions like "What did you say in response this question" and lets the patient work through it - stops [[rationalizations]] before they fully start and calls out that they are being too logical - circles back later because he cut them off - after a moment vulnerability pushes for self reflection "When you look in the mirror what do you see" - this question is asked multiple times throughout and prompts a more in-depth answer each time - doesn't immediately call out things he notices like microexpressions but brings them up later after he has prepared them to accept it - doesn't ask some questions because they will bring up emotions, "Some questions don't need to be asked"