# You and Your Gender Identity
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**Source**:: [[You and Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman-Fox, Zinnia Jones, Sam Dylan Finch, and Zander Keig]]
**Creator**:: [[Dara Hoffman-Fox, Zinnia Jones, Sam Dylan Finch, and Zander Keig]]
# Highlights
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feeling defeated, afraid, or frustrated. • Memorize it and make it your mantra. Do whatever you must so you can remember it, repeat it, and relive it. • Send it to a
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“What if I don’t like/hate/am ashamed of what I learn about myself?”
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“What if my family and friends don’t like what I discover about myself?”
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“What if I don’t ‘pass’?”
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“What if I’m not happy, either way?”
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You felt a sense of shame, embarrassment, and guilt for expressing and experiencing yourself in certain ways. You felt like you had to either stop doing them or had to do them in secret.
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“Not too bad at all—I would say I was clueless. It wasn’t until I was in my early twenties that I realized I had been hiding something from myself without really knowing it.”
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##### Shame Around Your Very Existence
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Some people feel shameful over their very existence and are unable to remember a time during which they didn’t feel that way. It’s challenging to pinpoint where this originates, for the answers are unique to each individual.
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• Religious teachings leading a child to believe that who they are as a person goes against their higher power and/or belief system.
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Having an innate sense of self in direct odds with cultural, societal, or community expectations of acceptable behavior.
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• For those who believe in past lives or reincarnation: that you are picking up from where you left off in the last life and are still living with something you did in a previous life.
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With enough practice, you’ll be able to tell if your self-talk is coming from an Internal Bully or from your Bodyguard. The key is to ask yourself: • Which words are being used in my self-talk? • What is the tone and intention of my self-talk?
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