> [!infobox] <s class="aside-in"><em>mentioned in 8 evergreens</em></s> #### [[A inwardly judgmental and outwardly accepting home creates trust issues]] #TO/TEND/WEED When I was a kid I grew up in a very [[religion|religious]] household, ^[[[My Deconstruction journey]]] and so I was very aware of the consequences of not being a [[Christianity|Christian]]. ^[[[Religious concepts are often too powerful for a child's mind]]] So it was very shocking to me when we would come home from church and I would hear my [[parents]] talk about the people who they had been so nice to at church in such [[judgement|judgmental]] ways. This was very confusing for me, and I developed a lot of [[anxiety]] around not being able to trust what my [[parents]] would say. - [[What is the difference between blame and judgement]] - [[trauma]] [[childhood]] #TO/TEND/GRAFT - [[Parents need to model the ability to deal with emotion to their children]] - [[Parents will not be able to protect their children from every source of trauma]] - [[Children will not question what is modeled for them unless they are taught to]] - [[Our authority figures curate and reinforce what we are allowed to imitate]] - [[Trans children will repress their dysphoria if they have been effectively taught it is unacceptable]] - [[self]] #TO/TEND/GRAFT - [[Self-hatred is born out of dissonance between self-image and self-perception]] - [[Identity is your understanding of yourself vs your interaction with the world]] - [[A repressed self creates a mistrust of self-love and self-esteem]] #TO/TEND/DEOBFUSCATE - [[You can be taught to invalidate your own emotions]] - results #TO/TEND/GRAFT - [[Christians struggle to feel empathy because they must believe that non-christians are going to hell]] - [[We carry our childhood wounds into adulthood]] ### <hr class="footnote"/> **Status**:: #EVER/SAPLING *edited 7:35 AM - July 08, 2022* **Topics**:: [[childhood]], [[trauma]], [[socialization]], [[mental health]]