> [!infobox] <s class="aside-in"><em>mentioned in 2 topics, 7 evergreens</em></s> #### [[A repressed self creates a mistrust of self-love and self-esteem]] If your sense of self is repressed then it is unlikely that you have ever been able to interact with the world in a way that works. This means that you haven't developed an [[identity]] that lines up with your true [[self]] because [[Identity is your understanding of yourself vs your interaction with the world]]. At this point your [[ego]] may construct an [[identity]] that matches your interaction with the world: [[Our ego is our subconscious defense of our self]] #TO/PONDER/IDEA what does a repressed self look like? [[A secure identity is the best defense against social anxiety]], because [[Confidence comes when you are more capable of handling diverse outcomes]]. But if you have a repressed [[identity]], you were never able to develop that [[confidence]], and likely feels large amounts of [[social anxiety]] because [[Your anxiety knows your insecurities better than you do]] This is part of how:: [[We value our biggest insecurities because they protect us from the biggest threats]]. The [[ego]] used our [[insecurity|insecurities]] to construct our [[identity]] because our true [[self]] was [[self-repression|repressed]]. Reasons for this likely come from the home, as that is where a lot of initial invalidation can happen: [[A inwardly judgmental and outwardly accepting home creates trust issues]] This is why::[[Parents need to model the ability to deal with emotion to their children]] A repressed [[self]] usually leads to issues with presentation so it is important to remember:: [[Presentation is the realization of our self-perception and identity is the realization of our self-image]] ### <hr class="footnote"/> **Status**:: #EVER/SAPLING *edited January 25, 2022* **Topics**:: [[self-repression]], [[self-love]], [[self-hate]], [[self-esteem]]