> [!infobox] <s class="aside-in"><em>mentioned in 1 topic, 10 evergreens, 1 source</em></s> #### [[Confidence is a feedback loop]] This [[feedback loop]] can either be in working for or against you. ##### Working against you [[Your anxiety is telling you everything that could go wrong, not what will go wrong]], but our [[brain]] believes these thoughts as if they are reality. [[Most anxiety isn't irrational it's just overcompensation]], and you are frustrated that your [[anxiety]] is impeding you from something as simple as talking to people. So you try to get past your [[social anxiety]] and this happens: 1. [[A secure identity is the best defense against social anxiety]] but you don't have a secure identity because your not able to be your true [[self]] because... 2. [[Your anxiety knows your insecurities better than you do]]. There is a some [[insecurity]] that you could fix if but you can treat this because... 3. [[Identity is your understanding of yourself vs your interaction with the world]] so your [[identity]] is that of someone who is unable to do what they want to do and so the [[feedback loop]] repeats [[Social anxiety]] disorders can lead to introverted, highly socially aware individuals, and addressing that [[anxiety]] can sometimes be seen as the destruction of an essential part of their [[identity]]. ^[[[Our ego is our subconscious defense of our self]] and [[We value our biggest insecurities because they protect us from the biggest threats]]] The only way out of this is loop is [[self-actualization]], and spending too much time in this loop can lead to [[Sadness is enlightenment and happiness is delusion|The fallacy that sadness is enlightenment and happiness is delusion]] or repressing your [[identity]] even further: [[A repressed self creates a mistrust of self-love and self-esteem]] If we fail to get out of this [[feedback loop]] it will distort our [[self-image]] which will only give our [[brain]] more insecurities to throw back at us: [[Self-hatred is born out of dissonance between self-image and self-perception]] ##### Working for you #TO/TEND/WATER [[Confidence comes when you are more capable of handling diverse outcomes]] ### <hr class="footnote"/> **Status**:: #EVER/GREEN *edited 7:35 AM - July 08, 2022* **Topics**:: [[anxiety]], [[social anxiety]], [[socialization]], [[confidence]]