> [!infobox] <s class="aside-in"><em>mentioned in 8 evergreens</em></s> #### [[When should you forgive people who don't deserve it]] [[We are confined to the tools of our time]]. If someone isn't ready to hear what we know they need to hear, sometimes the only thing we can do is wait. [[It's always worth it to work through trauma]], but there are downsides to having healed [[trauma]] that other people haven't, especially when those people grew up with you. We can [[sympathy|sympathize]] with our siblings in ways that other's can't, because [[We carry our childhood wounds into adulthood]]. ^[Even if you are and your siblings are very different people, there are likely common elements to your stories because of your [[parents]]: [[Our authority figures curate and reinforce what we are allowed to imitate]]] But even when we know they're just trying their hardest to move on, those people also have the greatest ability to hurt us when they [[It is valuable to admit that you might be wrong|refuse to admit that they might be wrong]]. %% #TO/PONDER/IDEA are we supposed to forgive people who aren't ready to [[Accepting responsibility is not only about your actions]] i.e [[Should you forgive people that don't deserve it]] %% There can be great value in getting space or cutting people off because [[Sometimes we can't grow until we change our environment]], but [[Parents will not be able to protect their children from every source of trauma]]. Sometimes it's accepting [[responsibility]] for the weight a loving people who don't deserve it: [[Accepting responsibility is not only about your actions]] conclusion:: [[The injustice of endurance]] ### <hr class="footnote"/> **Status**:: #EVER/SAPLING *edited 7:35 AM - July 08, 2022* **Topics**:: [[self-actualization]], [[fairness]], [[love]], [[human advancement]]